You and your friends
One punch can kill
You have a choice - avoid violence or risk serious physical, emotional and criminal consequences.
Even if violence does not end in death, it can cause significant long-term injuries. The offender can also end up with a criminal record, be sent to jail, pay huge fines and lose employment prospects or the chance to travel overseas. Statistics show that young men between the age of 15 to 25 are the most likely to be assault victims or offenders. Be smart and support blokes who don't fight!
Find out more about about the One Punch Can Kill campaign.
Confrontations
If your friends are having a heated argument that could escalate into a physical fight, you could:
- distract them with some other activity, or introduce them to another friend
- separate them to allow the situation ... and them... to ‘cool down'
- ask people in authority (such as security, management or police) to help defuse the situation.
Protect your friendships
Friendships are an integral and fun part of life, but some situations can really test a friendship, even long-term friendships. Situations such as being together 24/7, late nights, meeting new people, peer pressure and drugs or alcohol use may cause conflict between you and your friends.
- Before you arrive at Schoolies, agree on some ground rules with your friends. Discuss what behaviour you will and won't tolerate, strategies for safety and plans for the week.
- You may not agree with some of your friends' choices while you're away. It's important not to criticise them behind their backs. If you're concerned about a friend's choices or behaviour, try to talk to them about what's worrying you.
- If tension starts to build, remember that these are your friends and they've shared important parts of your life, so give them some space.
- People can sometimes say hurtful things when they are tired, hungry, affected by alcohol or stressed. Try to not react or take things personally.
- Try to resolve conflict by talking it over when you're both calm, rested and able to focus on the problem.
- Tell your friend how you feel, without blaming or accusing them. Be honest, respectful and assertive (not aggressive or confrontational).
- Allow your friend to tell you their side of the story. Be a good listener - don't interrupt and really try to understand their point of view.
- Remember, violence is never acceptable.
- No matter what happens, make sure you and your friends are safe at all times. Even if you're arguing, you'll be safer together than going off on your own.
For more information visit Relationships Australia or call 1300 364 277.
Feelings count: Look, Listen, Talk
If you're worried about how your exams went, it won't help to try to deal with it by drinking or taking drugs. You're not dealing with it anyway, you're just putting it off. Make sure you have good friends around to help you stay in control. Do the same for them if you see them overindulging. Look after your mates. Remember: Youth Beyondblue has 21 new fact sheets on everything from anxiety, depression, eating disorders, bullying and much more. For more information visit Youth Beyondblue or call 1300 22 4636.
Last reviewed: 29 September 2009
