Sex and you
Your personal safety
You may sometimes socialise with people you don't know very well. Here are some personal safety strategies:
- If you're going out, always go with at least one other person you know.
- Always stay aware of your surroundings.
- Use confident body language - stand tall with your head up, shoulders back and walk with a purpose.
- If you sense danger or pick up ‘bad vibes' from someone or some place, trust your instincts. Leave immediately and go to a place where you feel safe.
- Make sure your friends know who to call in an emergency (for example, your parents).
- Alcohol and drugs can affect your ability to think clearly and make good decisions
If someone pays you unwanted attention, tell them, assertively, to leave you alone. If they persist:
- Move to another area or join a group of people.
- Draw attention to their unwanted behaviour by telling them again in a loud voice to leave you alone and that you're not interested in them.
- Get help from a friend, volunteer, security person, or police officer.
Be prepared and be safe
Sex is not always planned. Carry condoms with you. By having safe sex, you will reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancy.
Visit Queensland Health for youth-specific information on sex and sexual health. You can go to Family Planning Queensland for details on contraception and other issues.
Sexual assault
Sexual assault is any sexual activity to which a person does not give consent. This includes rape, unwanted touching, sexual harassment, indecent exposure and sex-related insults. Sexual assault is a crime.
Remember
- Don't be pressured into any sexual activity. If it does not feel right, say NO.
- Listen when people say NO. It's wrong to put pressure on someone, even if they are your boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Set sexual limits as soon as you can so you both feel comfortable.
- Spending money on someone does not give you the right to expect sexual favours. And just because someone spends money on you does not mean you owe them sexual favours.
Never try to convince someone to have sex with you. Respect the rights of others to say NO.
What should I do if I have been sexually assaulted?
If you're in a situation where sexual behaviour is unwanted, forced or coerced, it is NOT okay. Contact the police on 000 or go to the nearest police station.
It's important to know that it's not your fault and you don't have to deal with it alone. Tell someone you trust. You may also need to see a doctor who can treat any injuries or sexually transmitted infections.
For confidential free support, phone the Sexual Assault Help Line (statewide) on free call 1800 010 120. This service is available, 7.30am-midnight, seven days a week.
Last reviewed: 29 September 2009
